> The word delagating means the person is choosing who does what when and so on.

Right. The word 'delegated' is a person level term. It implies that there is an agent who gets to choose.

Sometimes people use person level terms (like information processing and delegating) to describe subpersonal (unconscious) neural processing, however.

That is how your memories have been stored by the unconscious neural processes of your brain. Another way of saying the same thing is to say that your unconscious has delegated your memories.

You don't choose where your neural processes delegate your memories and your thoughts and your feelings and your bodily sensations...

But you do have moments of person level conscious awareness of such things. Or at least... You could learn to have moments of person level conscious awareness of such things. And as you have moments of person level conscious awareness of such things then there are a few things you can do with your newfound person level conscious awareness of such things:

1) Repress them (aka 'numb out' aka 'focus on other things' aka 'allow yourself to become distracted by other things'

2) Get upset. Which will probably lead to 1.

3) Accept them. Which will lead to even more moments of awareness... Which will lead to co-consciousness... Which will lead to integration.

4) Change them. What is paradoxical about change (as it is being used here) is that one actually needs to accept them before one is able to change them (one has to acknowledge a problem before one can do something about it). If one doesn't accept it first then it is likely to lead to 1.

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There are many ways of teaching what is essentially the same process... One needs to learn how to accept.

Dissociation / repression is a learned strategy. People learn how to do 1 though there is probably an innate disposition that comes into play too because not all people seem capable of it...

And what one needs to learn to do is instead of to dissociate / repress one needs to learn to accept.

But it all starts with being conscious of what was an automatic and unconscious process...

I'm not saying that this is a part of DBT by the book... But it was one application of it that I worked out with my therapist and it certainly got the ball rolling on my recovery after all the challenging of cognitions which had gone before that only (truth be told) made me dissociate from my thoughts even more...