I've seen similar posts, so I hope I'm not clogging up the forums with this post. I'm a newbie here. A 31 year old virgin male (and not by religious beliefs, and without any history of sexual abuse). That fact alone is painful and degrading enough, painful enough to drive me to cry myself to sleep. Worse than the humiliation of never having experienced intimacy is the genuine terror that I have that I will never have sex or love in my life ever. I've brought this fact up with some women I've dated, and they say they respect it, but I believe it's lip service. So many women think virgins my age have one of three issues: 1) little boys living in their mom's basement (not true with me), 2) they need to be taught sex, or 3) they're desperate to get it on right away (again not true). To be, non-acceptance of this is an immediate, irrevocable dealbreaker. I don't want to have my heart shattered because a potential mate won't accept that part of me.I can't go outside because seeing couples displaying affection makes me physically quake with anger and sadness. How do I bring up the issue of my virginity to a potential mate? When should I bring it up? Is there a point where I shouldn't even bother to look for love and sex because it will never happen to me?