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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.
Are you saying, approach people to date that I'm not interested in and ignore people that I am interested in? I was thinking of just waiting around and see if anyone approaches me. I'm getting the feeling that in the midwest US that it isn't quite appropriate for a girl to approach a guy. Or simply pursue women instead and explore that realm of my sexuality. It's just that that makes me very nervous too as I don't know to what degree I'm really attracted to girls. But at least there's not the fear that they're going to hurt me.
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You were saying that you are consistently attracted to men who end up being cruel to you. I am saying that the next one you find yourself attracted to will probably also be cruel to you, unless you are willing to consider breaking the pattern. There may be men in your life already who are interested in you who you would not normally consider. Or women, like you are saying.
The midwest is a big region. As far as I have seen it is acceptable for the woman to express interest first. That is, in Kansas, Illinois, and Iowa. In general, actually, it is common for the woman to be in charge; even when the man appears to get things going, it is usually after picking up on signs that his interest will be welcome.
Maybe some martial arts classes would help with your confidence. Aikido, for example.