Never went through any of that myself - but I can tell you why...
I had hear of those things happening, so made it a point as long as I can remember not to say too much of anything to anyone - and at a pretty young age, also how to read people - to tell what they are thinking to a point, and more important, what do they want to see/hear to go away when I am not liking where it looks like something is going - and to change subjects if needed, without it being apparent that was the point.....