1Buster, I have no idea, we have 3 kids, they cling to me, want me to get them stuff, the house is always a mess, and then H comes home and then he wants to be all over me. CAN"T EVERYBODY JUST LEAVE ME ALONE. A sexless marriage is not a good choice, but sometimes it is the only choice. at least it is for the person who takes care of the kids. Coming home from work w/ a table set before you and a clean house, and happy kids is no easy feat. the stress of meeting others needs above your own is a bad place to be.