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radio_flyer said:
Soooooo whyyyyyyy is it so important to dig up memories that have well been forgotten....??????????

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The question is . . . does the mind really forget?

Who I am today is a result of my past experiences. I've had a lot of hurts.

(1) My past hurts have taught me how to relate to other people. I'm distrustful of others. I have low self-esteem. I'm not assertive. I'm overly sensitive.

(2) My past hurts have shaped my attitudes and behaviors. I have health, sleeping, and eating problems. I have anger . . . a lot of anger. I easily lose hope when things get tough.

All my adult problems I create in my life are either a direct or indirect result of my past hurts because each thing listed in #1 and #2 above.

I think my anger issues (from past hurts) are the core to all my issues (problems today). How can I resolve my anger without digging up the past?

Two examples below:

Am I angry at my husband OR am I REALLY angry at the monsters (men) who have sexually assaulted me???

Am I angry at a person who isn't listening to me (in the present) OR am I REALLY angry at my mother (from the past) for not hearing me try to ask for help, to protect me from my sexually abusive father??


I hope you find peace (((((((((radioflyer)))))))))).