I didn't find my companion until I was 35. As Bonnie says, we have to go towards it and make it happen, it is not going to come to us. I spent a lot of my life fantasizing instead of being out there developing myself and learning what I needed to learn to be able to be a partner in a relationship. Fortunately therapy was helping me without my quite realizing how.

My girlfriend from high school just decided one day she wanted a relationship and was ready and went out and joined things and met people and put herself out there and actually met her husband at a square dance! I can't imagine (she was a physical education teacher and he's an engineer). But I finally realized that day dreaming was not getting me anything.