My wife, when she's out of control(and I'm the one with severe mental illness)will say the most outrageous, hurtful statements. A couple of months ago, she said to me, in a sarcastic tone, "I don't know what's going happen to you, but I'll be fine. Anyway, you get so angry, you might kill me!" I'm not violent, never expressed violence tinged words to her...I just swallow her crap. I take into account that she's alcoholic and probably has Borderline Personality Disorder. Yes, we make a lovely couple.