A few of you know my story, some don't. 63, married 18 years, been a couple 21 years. I have treatment resistant ultradian cycling/mixed state bipolar. My wife is alcoholic, from a family of alcoholics, also with mood disorders, suicides & suicide attempts. She doesn't think there's anything wrong with her, though when I've described her behavior to doctors, the opinion was Borderline Personality Disorder.

She knows I'm struggling but she goes on as if nothing is wrong. I'm sorry I ever met her. She hasn't been 'the one' many of us search for or hope to meet. I agree with Darth Bane and Eternalwinter; a relationship or marriage is stressful and if the person you're with also so has psych and/or addiction problems, it is pouring gasoline on a fire. Oh to live peacefully alone.