Only you can know what feels right about your choice of responses to what you feel and think. Men do literally think/experience things differently than women do and can be fond of throwing around words like "reasonable" or "logical/illogical". But feeling is not about logic or reason! What logic does a pretty flower have or how reasonable is wanting your own way (you can't want someone else's after all, you are stuck in your own skin/life and can't represent anyone else and no one else can, you)?

I would get comfortable with myself and how I express myself and, as it sounds like you have done, know when you have difficulties staying as balanced as you would like? Someone else's reasonable/unreasonable cries are often because they perceive themselves as "losing" something and don't quite know how else to express it. But we are not responsible for how other people view us, can't really do much about that and can only help them with their language or expression difficulties in limited ways.

The best/most helpful way to proceed in an argument when someone else tries to label you negatively is to get interested and say something like, "Do you think so? What behavior of mine are you perceiving as unreasonable?" and try to get beyond the 2-year-old equivalent of "You're a poopy head!" and their threatening not to play with you anymore. What they say and do is all about them and their perception, not you.