They will never stop. In the end it will always be us that has to endure or conform somehow even to the point of changing how our mind works. They will not change theirs. I am currently still battling this issue with my husband. It had gotten so bad to the point of me developing extreme anxiety and Body Dysmorphic Disorder and loss of sex drive. I compulsively go to the gym almost everyday and now am currently on 4 different medications. I lost my job too as a result of my stress and anxiety. My husband says it is impossible for men to stop. Me and my husband are considering taking me to neurofeedback therapy because my brain simply can accept this and I feel constantly under attack by it. A week ago we went to vegas for 3 days. there was no porn and no other women that he was masterbating to. And we had sex! I felt no threats and nothing invading that sacred thing that should be between me and him. His sexual attention was on me and it felt wonderful and I was able to let go and give myself to him. I wish things could always be that way but sadly we had to return home and those women are back and I am stuck in this reality again. I am at the point of praying for numbness. They will not stop no matter how much they claim to love us. Women will always sacrafice for love. So whenever he does something nice for you like buy you flowers or take you on a vacation, brings you a gift or simply just works and provides for you while you stay home......take comfort in that. Appreciate that. He knows he has been hurting you and these things are his way or trying to make it up to you. Perhaps they are just helpless slaves to their own demons.