i sincerely hope i never upset anybody, its just a very interesting observation to me and i agree it may simply be a piece of my 'behavior' that i need to re-evaluate and so on, i try my best not to judge others as i know what it feels like to be wrongly judged/labelled, i suppose it was just something that interested me, and of course i plan on doing my best not to let it become an issue i understand there are many facets to ones personality and i know that im definately one who bounces around from time to time, but of course it is the internet and it is a public forum so to speak where anybody who has a couple minutes can join and post. of course my observation came from reading some others who also pointed a finger as to say 'whats real and whats not with this so & so', as i said i hope i never offended anybody it was DEFINATELY not my intention, merely a conversational piece i guess. Thanks though for the responses as reading them does make me step back and evaluate myself and my 'wording' of things. I appreciate it, and I appreciate the open door policy this site holds and the non judgemental ways of the people here. I guess I can only promise to do my best to be the same in order to be a welcomed member of the board, I hope i haven't ruined that chance.