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Originally Posted by riotgrrrl
Maybe. But you also should be able to discuss things without it turning into a fight. For someone who doesn't like conflict, why does he point out all your faults? Do you get angry when he does that? I am wondering if his actions do indeed cause the conflict he so hates.
It's hard living with someone like that. Have you ever thought of couples therapy or would he not go? Perhaps a third person may be what he needs to understand that you are allowed to voice any complaints, and the way he behaves will create resentment.
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We tried couples therapy (just recently actually) after I begged for 2 years and after a handful of sessions she suggested we seek individual counseling. He spent a lot of our sessions blaming me and not being accountable for his part in our problems
I'm about 50/50 on responding to him when he gets angry. Sometimes I think he is baiting me. Other times I just get so irritated that we can't have a discussion without it turning into "but you do this" or "I wouldn't have if you didn't" that I don't even bother trying to bite my tongue.