Well, I went the extra step of having professionals look at his behavior, actions and history.

Basically the information came down that he has a history of stalking and harrassment that pre-dates me and our relationship. While it appears that the likelihood of him harming me or the kids physically is low, there is concern about emotional abuse. (gee, really?!)

One of his previous relationships would only speak to the investigators on strict assurance that her identity and whereabouts would be kept confidential,. She's that worried about reprisal.

So, now that we have it -- with a strong recommendation to the courts that ex has a full pscyh eval before he's even let anywhere near the kids -- how do we get the courts to actually ACT on it? That's my big worry. Ex is going to claim that the report is worthless because no one ever talked to HIM during the investigation.