One thing I learned in therapy is to talk to the feeling. I was surprised how the one holding the feeling was willing to talk to me. I have a happy one who loves to pick up frogs and stuff. I have always been aware of her as a feeling. A few years ago I asked her about herself. She was shy at first. She seemed to already know me. Sense then we communicate all the time. She is mostly happy but can also be scared and frighten. I never new this about her until a year ago. It has helped us both to develop this relationship.