I don't want to write a long post, basically, I think my husband of 18 years is really depressed. I know the basic symptoms, but is pushing a spouse away one of them? It seems like he want nothing to do with me. I don't know how I went from my husband/best friend a month ago to this. I try not to take it personally, he said he acts like this with everybody, not just me, and that makes me hopeful that it may be HIM, not US.
We have had a very stressful year or so, my brother and 2 small kids moved in with us, where we have been alone and quiet for many years, he lost a job, started school, and taking care of me is a full time job with all my anxiety, etc.
I just came out of a depressive episode, and he took on all the household responsibilities, taking care of the cooking, cleaning, the kids, the house, plus his schooling (my brother isn't much help, and I enabled it)

I guess what I'm asking is.... should I attribute his pushing me away as part of depression? Until a couple of months ago, we were happy, a team.
I also think he may have low testosterone, that he has not been checked for since we thought that may be the cause of other problems almost 2 years ago.
I started therapy last week for my own issues, and he is going to the doctor tomorrow.
I didn't mean to make this so long, sorry about that, but any help would be very much appreciated.

He also has smoked pot a couple of times and started very moderately drinking, and that is so unlike him....The REAL him.