Generally, people who sit and find fault with themselves and everyone else and the world in general, feel miserable,,, how odd is that ? and people who put a pleasant spin on whatever happens end up feeling happy... i wonder if there is a connection?

i am a "recovering addict" of the down and dirty school of thought, and can be easily dragged back into criticizing and downgrading and rebuffing, so i know how easy it is to be that way and how hard it is to stop. all i can say is: it's never too soon to start trying to change. unless you really secretly love being miserable (there is a condition called masochism, which is just that).

if you find you are having difficulty changing on your own, there are methods, "therapies", self-help techniques to help you. CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) helps many change the way they think and feel and behave, though it's not for everyone. DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) includes and emotional and mindfulness compononent missing in CBT. there is a buddhist Mind Training program, if you are familiar with the principals or willing to learn, called Lojong Mind Training. and one very much underestimated therapy i favor, called Volunteer Work.

at any rate, no one is going to change the world for you, if they could, and if that would even help (which it likely would not, since this is an Internal World View). here is a proven recipe for change if you are ready: Decide to Change. Decide WHAT to change. Change what you can when you can. Praise yourself for changing.

Best Wishes
Gus