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Originally Posted by VenusHalley
I always wonder about this when it's discussed... what is the difference? To me it sounds as matter of semantics. It will not change how you view yourself.
I use the "am" form... but eh... it's not all I "am". I am also a Czech, greenparty voter, cat owner, a redhead, eurovision fan, existentialist...
to me more important is how you view implications. If you have an "illness"... or if you "are" troubled. To me the "I am" form is... "well, this is who I AM", deal with it. I am also 5'11 and not that fond of it, but my long legs aren't going anywhere... althought it's not all my identity.
so what is your take on you and your quirk? (since I "have" quirk in my view, not illness). Outside the am/have distinction?
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For me right now it is I am this, that or the other. Because right now i am being ruled by all that I have. I have means I have it and I am okay for the most part and it is not ruling me.
If that makes sense.
So I am so not in the I have phase at this time. I was for a while, or at least I thought I was. I realize now that I may not have ever been and was fooling not just those around me, but myself as well. To the extent my cover did not allow me to see what I was truly doing to myself all along, and others too. So yea, I so AM all the things that plague me.
Sorry, I will get off my own soapbox now. So did not mean to take your thread anywhere else, just wanted to get that out there I guess to explain how I see myself in relation to your question. If that is not what you are looking for, I apologize.