Your story reminds me a another one from a lady I knew a few years ago. Almost identical except it was her husband who went manic and took off with some crazy woman. That woman was unemployed and on drugs though, and he gave her half of their life savings.

In that story, he did eventually snap out of it. He didn't believe he had bipolar and his cousin was a psychologist, also telling him he didn't have bipolar. Even though he returned to the marriage, things didn't work out for them. But, I see it as the guy didn't want to do the work. He didn't want to accept what had happened.

The truth is, no one can save your wife but herself. Meds, doctors, hospitals... unless she's willing to look at herself and take responsability for her wellness, it's not going to happen. And it's the same for the marriage.

I know that doesn't sound very hopeful. But really, no one can say what will happen with your wife. Also, you have to consider that even if she comes back you are holding in all the hurt and jealousy. You could very easily errupt like a volcano. I think maybe it would be helpful for you to go to a therapist during this time, start healing yourself now to prepare for whatever is coming.

I suggest a therapist who knows both about couples and bipolar, so that when you're talking about what has happened they will be more understanding.

I'm sorry this has happened to you. It's terrible.