I've been steadfastly at your second position. Reframing things positively is only meaningful to me if it has a chance of being a realistic or possible truth. Congratulations on growing beyond pollyannaism - it's something my mother was never able to do. I say you can't solve the problem if you can't see it, and you can't see it if you pretend it's not there. It's not "all good" so let's not pretend it is. Maybe sometimes lying to myself can get me through a scary wormhole for a moment, but I don't want to do it all day long!