Wonderful People,

Thought it might be good to post our tools on line for others to read. I know that through the many many years of T and learning and too many nights of pain that lessons have been learned along the way.

Here is one of my tools I just shared. If this helps others, I will share more. And I would LOVE to read the tools others have learned.

Wendi

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There are some things that can NOT be undone. I learned this the hard way after trying for YEARS to forget crimes done against me. And the harder I tried, the more entangled I was in them. With every pull of my memory, the ropes around my mind and soul became tighter and tighter.

Now I am at peace.

Are the memories still there? Yes.
So how am I free?

I realized that for me personally, every time I had a memory, I had to take charge of my mind and my heart. When I was in the fetal position crying my eyes out... I would have to make myself stop. This took a good amount of strength and I had to learn how to do this. Then I would consciously SHIFT my internal attention to something else. At first, it was ANYTHING else. In fact, at first, I would shift the memory away from the most painful, and I would SELECT another one that I felt was "not as bad" and I would continue to cry through the pain of my dark night.

Soon, I was able to see I could control where I focused my thoughts after I had already fallen into the memory trap. This allowed me to mentally be able to climb back out on my own.

I realized after I learned this skill of survival that I could take back my own power this way. Now the abusers where no longer in charge of me or my memory. I was FINALLY the one making the calls !!!