Hi,
Mine has been a inter-religion marriage.There have been incidents with my family and hers which have left a very bad taste.My realtionship has soured with my wife over these issues.Things like " why did you mum insult me and my folks?". Abuse and swear words follow and I guess its just normal for me not to hear abuse and disrespect towards my parents.I have asked her many a times to forget the past and live fresh but she is adamant.She tries to get these issues up every now and then and forces me to speak to her folks which i dont like cos of her attitude towards my parents.Words like " you are not a good husband a good son -in-law " have hurt me tremendously. Things get worse when she constantly threatens me of suicide and which throws me into an emotional spin.She would harm herself and throw things around and I most of the time have to apply brute force to stop her from harming herself.She threatens divorce etc. Dont get me wrong she always says she loves me and all that but after seeing all this i feel something is not right.I am feeling emotionally drained and have given up feeling happy ever in my life.A pshyciatrist friend of mine was shocked to hear all this as no one has picked this behaviour of hers at work.he has a strong opinion that she is suffering from a personality disorder.She is a doctor and that makes it worse for me, she used to be a surgeon and now a pshyciatrist herself.I am scared even to talk to her regarding this as she justifies her actions and puts the blame on me for not being supportive enough and yet again the entire cycle goes on!! If you ask me do i still want to be with her?? I would say yes cos I strongly feel that she has a problem and i can't leave her on her own but in doing so I have lost myself. Please do advice !!