I have been with my boyfriend a couple of months, and i am already having my doubts. I really want to give it a chance to work but it's so hard I feel like i'm walking on eggshells and don't know if it is good for me to be with him. He's started to change, your opinions would be really appreciated!

So....

- He tells me i'm stupid, and says he doesn't know why he's with me and that I talk a load of ***** and should think before I speak. Apparently I tell him a load of rubbish he doesn't need to know. I'm just trying to make conversation but it's so difficult! I am not thick, I got 4A*'s and 9 A's at school, and am doing an open uni course in software development, it's really insulting when he says i'm stupid when all he's doing is plumbing!!

- He says "oh why can't you be more fun like *insert name of one of my friends here*" and that i'm boring. I'm not boring, my friends have said why am I so quiet when he's around. I think it's because he makes me feel so stupid it makes me close up. I feel like I can't be myself. Then when I'm with my friends and being fun he says we're weird and that he wonders why he's with me.

- He is so hot and cold. One minute he will make me feel awful and he will put me down (he doesn't like my hair, my clothes, i'm not allowed to wear certain things of mine anymore, i'm stupid etc...) then the next he says how much he loves me and everything it's so confusing.

- He goes through everything on my phone and has done right from the start. I have nothing to hide but I just don't like it. If I say anything though he'll think I have something to hide. If I even touch his phone he freaks out and gets mad so I won't be trying again! He doesn;t like me talking to guys he gets all mardy.

- He tried to trick me by texting me off his mates number. I didn't know who it was and he was trying to see "if i'd cheat" then he didn't like it that I replied. (I said I have a boyfriend so not to get any ideas! just because I said OKay to that we can be mates he flipped out!) He said "you don't need to make any more guy friends now you have me".

- He gets annoyed if I am texting him too much when we aren't with eachother, he isn't affectionate usually (then he is the next day and it confuses me!). He says he loves me, then he acts like he doesn't care.

- He's in college whereas I work full time, he doesn't drive and hardly ever has any money. He is too proud and all "i'm the man I should pay etc etc" so we never do anything because he won't let me pay. He says when he passes his test "i'll not be driving anymore ever" and goes on about what a bad driver I am! If I pay for something he gets mardy and mad at me!

- He is always right. Apparently I have to learn that (even when he's wrong) he is right.

- He never really has anything nice to say :/

- He told me he loves me, and says he's never said that to anyone before so it's a big deal. Which makes me feel like it' s just me being stupid thinking all this because he says he loves me.

I guess he's just getting more and more controlling and mean as time goes on I don't know if it's my fault! I don't even think he realises he does it!
My family don't like him, they say I could do much better but he makes me feel like i'm so lucky to have him and could never find anyone as good. I feel like I hardly know him too, I tell him stuff about me it'll be "pointless stuff he doesn't need to know".

What do you think? should i stop being stupid and give him a chance or should I leave him and save myself all this misery? i get depression (it comes and goes) and he is making me feel miserable and bad about myself by putting me down. But if it's all true then I suppose its not his fault :/

xxx