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Originally Posted by l8blmr
I've just posted on the MD thread here where I listed some other forums that I've found which deal with that issue. My point is that there's a lot of people out there with the same issue including me. And it's only recently getting attention. I had no friends when I was a kid and made up fantasies that I did too. Not that I'm a social animal now.
There are methods for learning to stay in the moment, recognizing when a trigger causes you to escape into your favorite distraction. PM me if you want to discuss in private. Check these out:
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Believing you're the only one and that everyone else has it together are common symptoms. Therapists know their first job is to win your trust. You're worth the effort.
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I don't want to fix this anymore. I prefer to just be alone. I don't mean to sound like a douche but I will not click those links because it won't change anything for me.
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Originally Posted by Cheshire Grin
First of all, 485162342, I want to say that I was surprised by how many of your comments I found I could relate to. I have always had what has been called an "overactive imagination" and, more often, by the less eloquent, that I "think too much."
I think that imagination is a tremendous asset that can, as you have found, be overwhelming. I've found that most people are capable of memorizing other people's ideas and regurgitating them, as need be, but that imagination is something that cannot be bought at any price.
"I want to be normal, have some friends, go out late at night and party like the rest of the people but I don't go on well with that."
I was a wild partygirl when I was young. I went out most nights and drifted from clubs and parties, not going home till the sun rose. I was running away from myself, trying to hide from all the pain I was in. And most of the people I caroused with were doing the exact same thing.
When I was young, I also thought that therapy was for other people. When I did decide to go, I thought it was something that could be done quickly, like I seemed to achieve so many other things in my youth. I'm about to make a statement, NOT to discourage you, but to try to help you be more realistic about therapy. Not all therapists will have all the qualities that you may need to make progress. Not all will be worthy of your trust. But until you begin to open up to one, I'm not sure how much progress you will make on your own, in your current mindset. Also, when I started therapy I thought I could tidy myself up in a couple of months. It's 16 years later and I'm still learning and growing from work I do in continued therapy. It's not an easy thing to do, to commit to therapy, but you are worth the effort.
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The thing that I am most afraid of going to a therapist is the time that it's going to take to get any results done. You mentioned that it's been 16 years since you started seeking help. This makes me think that I don't really want to waste that time for achieving small efforts, because I know that this will be really hard to let go off. So I won't do anything because i'm no one. This won't change. All I can do now is just write the ideas down.
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Originally Posted by Clara22
It is hard to start therapy sometimes. I am at the same point. At least, try to stay here, post about your feelings. I think it would help. I think that part of the blame about your daydreaming is on society. This society offers models impossible to achieve. All these lives on TV, on Facebook are just fake and we buy in! we see our lives to be so distant from those luminous lives, our lives are so poor in comparison! then, we close our eyes and dream of perfect lives. We are heroes, beauties, riches, and famous.
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I don't think i'll be making anymore future posts about myself. It makes me feel weird when I tell others about myself, so I would rather not do it.
So what i'm going to do is give in and just go with the flow.
Thanks for the replies.