Jungatheart thanks i will check them out.

the inner child thing, both the female and male therapist did that to me, and the male therapist explained how the boy respondes to my trauma and little girl inside.. it was very raw and felt like i was re experiencing my trauma all over again.
i shoudnt of had sex with him, i felt like i needed too after all of this. he knew the female therapist actually worked with her i was both of there client.
very overwhelming right now.
my husband is effected, we took a break to work on separate issues, and he was there when i got the FB messages from her, he was the first to read them, and it upset him he did not want me to write her back. i still have feelings towards her and i felt like i ha to write her back,, and i always feel like i have to make her feel better.. and she never makes me feel better

its nice to hear from others outside of therapy, that understands what i am going through i don't feel so singled out.