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I think like others have said, it takes time. I think trust, especially when you have difficulty with it, comes more than anything from experience, not always words. So it's understandable that maybe her reassuring words aren't helping as much as you'd like, but don't beat yourself up about it.
Over time, as you experience her as a safe and trustworthy person, it should get better. Though as someone mentioned, it's often not a straight line, but more zigzaggy, or steps forward and back.
Does your discomfort prevent you from talking about things you want to talk about? If this is the case, I find it helpful to say that I'd like to talk about/share something with you, but I'm having trouble, can you help me?
It's been 4 years and sometimes I feel more comfortable than others, but I can't say that I ever feel entirely comfortable (like I would talking to a friend, for example). I read somewhere about therapy having this ideal edge or threshold of anxiety/discomfort, where you're not too comfortable and not too uncomfortable. I'm probably wildly mis-paraphrasing, but something like that. I think the idea is that some tension is a good thing. I remember there being a really neat rationale for this, can't remember now, guess I'll have to look it up.
You'll get there!
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