I used to wonder how anybody could ever be cool about it. Then one time, t double-booked and saw me instead of the other client (looked like a married couple) and I was omg this is just like when my mother favors my brother and my SIL over me - only this time, that didn't happen. huge huge breakthru. I mean, my mother asks them what she should cook for my birthday that THEY want to eat, THEN she asks me what I want her to cook in addition. I don't have the face to ask the old lady to cook anything else. I get the message that everybody else is more important than me. And particular, and spoiled! Eff them. So I think it's a big transference opportunity, that's why it's so painful and fraught. So pretty much I'm cool, but I did want to strangle the girl yesterday who left saying, see you in TWO weeks - yes, it's a national holiday next week, you are so brilliant!! (Oh yeah, I'm SO cool!)