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Originally Posted by H3rmit
growing beyond pollyannaism - it's something my mother was never able to do. I say you can't solve the problem if you can't see it, and you can't see it if you pretend it's not there. It's not "all good" so let's not pretend it is. Maybe sometimes lying to myself can get me through a scary wormhole for a moment, but I don't want to do it all day long!
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YES!!!
I realized, I Don't Have To walk around with a permanent smile on my face!!
I like the more serious side of myself. Yes, life has been tough, but stuffing away all the negativity, to be that "positive" person I was raised to be, did me more harm than good. All it did was build resentment, stuff anger--that would come out in all the wrong ways, led to years of therapy. Depression, perhaps even helped along a serious neurological illness(who really knows, there..), and who knows what else...
I'm liking realism over Pollyanaism. I'd rather feel my emotions, in the moment, and deal with them as quick as I can, than what pollyanaism does to a soul.
Thanks for this thread!