I'm not sure If I'm writing this in the correct forum - but I'm not sure where else to put it.

I was wondering if anyone could offer any suggestions on how to deal with this.

I'm sort of a push over. I never admitted that to myself before, but I've been noticing more and more lately that I will let people take advantage of me. I have a hard time saying "no" to people.

My next door neighbor has some major issues. I feel bad for her, so when she asks me to do things for her (like today, I was on my way to a job interview and she asked me to drive her to the gas station for beer and cigarettes) I do them. Thing is, while I don't mind helping people out (I actually very much enjoy helping) I don't want to feel like a door mat, or like I'm being taken advantage of.

I just can't figure out why I can't say "no" to most people. I think it has to do with a fear of hurting them, or letting people down. But I also have to look out for myself, and make sure I set boundaries, I just seem to be unable to identify those boundaries, and stick to them.

Anyone else have an issues with this? Anyone figure out how to say "no" and feel OK about it?