You have to do what is best for the group as a whole. You cannot bend the rules to suit one individual. Everyone needs to have accountability for their actions. It sounds like you are making her accountable and she doesn't want to accept that. So, it's time to cut the cord and move on.

Caring for folks is one of the hardest jobs anyone can do. We do personalize things as much as we try not to, it's too hard not to now and again. We also have expectations of ourselves that at times, we cannot possibly meet. It's not for a lack of trying on our part, but rather the lack of trying or ability on the other persons part.

Hang in there!! (((((notthemama8)))))