So rather than start another thread I just thought I'd reply here because it's the same issue, different day. The advice will be the same but I just have to type it out..

Last night I got really butt hurt by a comment the fiance made. I would just say hurt but I see the ridiculousness in it and I just don't know how / what I can do so it doesn't bother me. I understand I need to ask more questions to desensitize. When I do that you are absolutely right, it does seem to help. It's the ones that catch me by surprise that really sting me.

Last night I was talking to the fiance about my best friend. She is pretty recently out of a really bad relationship and she's never tried online dating before and she's trying it. She's telling me about a really nice guy she's met and how they have been talking / texting and private messaging. She's really excited and I'm happy for her. I was telling my fiance about it and she was excited for her too. She said "How exciting! I love dating. Going out, getting dressed up, having someone adore you, is he going to kiss me? Are we going to have sex??"
I dont know why but that was a dagger to my soul. I tell her how much I love, adore and appreciate her daily. I get her flowers multiple times a week, make entirely too many trips to the local jewelry store just to see her smile. All I could think was "Does she miss dating over what we have?" It really hurt.

You don't have to respond. It's a continuation of the same issue I just had to type it out.