I will try and keep it short. looking to hear from others who might experience the same and what they have done to help the situation. I have been married for 17 yrs. Always stated that I have a LOW sex drive we married anyway and to help my husband out always or almost always gave in to his request for sex whether I was interested or not. I know a mans sex drive is important and felt it was important to our marriage. a few months ago he got really drunk and forced sex even after I said NO (many times) Sought out a counselor who gave me advice to be open and honest about what my wants and desires were and that if I really didn't want to have sex to say NO and mean it.

I have even offered for him to seek sex outside the relationship but only for a **** and go Not a relationship. After the conversation of that he took it upon himself to go and solicite sex outside our marriage but he did exactly what I said I couldn't handle. He started up a relationship with someone. I found out before it got to the point of sex ( I think but don't know for sure) however, I feel crushed and betrayed.

We are trying to work this out but it is hard to see a compromise. He wants it and is willing go out side the relationship to get it and I don't and am willing to leave the relationship because of it.

I know there is way more to this story then I can jot down on here but maybe you offer something I have't thought of yet.