We all have our things that bother us…something that bothers me, may not bother you, and something that bothers you, may not bother me. This doesn’t bother me. I think that there are several reasons for this. It seems like a lot of people who are posting on here rarely see other people that see their T. I believe that part of the reason this doesn’t bother me is that my T works in a counseling group and schedules clients back-to-back. I almost always encounter people in the waiting room (usually around 2). I also almost always encounter the person leaving my T’s office and the next person coming in after me. This has been happening to me since the very first time that I saw my T. So, this is the norm for me. I think I am desensitized to this. If I never saw people and then did just a few random times, I would probably feel like you and the others. However, I am just so used to this. Second, my T seems to see a lot of youth (teens are one of her specialties) and I’ve seen her see married couples and married women individuals. I kind of feel like I have my own niche as the “young, single adult client.” I’m sure that she has others, but I have not seen one. Also, although I have my list of family issues (TRUST ME), I was an only child for 14 years and an only grandchild on both sides for 9 years. For my formative years, I didn’t really have any competition for attention. Fourthly, one thing that I really like about my T is that she makes me feel special. She definitely tells me that I am a fun client and a special client. She also will tell me when something reminded her of me during the week. I really appreciate those comments. They make me feel special and like I exist outside of the room to her. It is hard being a client. There are so many of us to them, but we only have one T. These are all things that I’m really trying to keep in mind as I start school to become a T. I hope that I can make each client feel special someday…everyone deserves that feeling…. I’m sorry that this bothers you and others. It seems like the best-case-scenario would be to encounter this all the time (like me) from the beginning of therapy or never…but anything in-between seems distressing!
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