Antimatter,

I don't think pbutton or any of us responding are exactly trying to categorize anyone. We're not throwing labels around -- 'oh, you know, everyone with X disorder!'

There are people who refuse to leave after their appointments, and people who linger or go back in after their appointments are over. Regardless of what label gets put to it, if a person lingers in the waiting room or wherever after her appointment hoping to say one more thing her T or doctor or whoever, or a person who simply refuses to leave after an appointment, or a person that other people will pretend to be on the phone to avoid, or a person who continues to do something, ANYTHING after another person has asked her to stop, THAT is the type of person I don't want to be.

I have a fear and horror based on growing up with THAT type of person -- someone whose needs were always more important, more pressing, more whatever than mine. Someone who completely disregarded my wishes and my boundaries and would excuse herself saying that my needs could not possibly be as much or as important as hers, or my pain could be as much as hers or I would simply collapse because it was all SHE could do to keep going and she was clearly so much stronger and better than me. I do not wish to do that to someone else.

sorry if I'm hijacking, pbutton.