I've been divorced for three years now. Still have to deal with my exh due to young children, visitation, their activities, etc.

I don't know how much more, I can stand to hear him say, without my wanting the Scream, that the only reason why the marriage ended in divorce is because my (now deceased) mom and her husband, turned me away from him or 'brainwashed' me, which is his preferred choice of wording.

As if, I can't think for myself. As if, his 'personality' had nothing to do with it. As if, even in the begin there weren't problems. As if, his alcohol consumption and vile mood swings had nothing to do with it. As if, the marriage didn't completely disintegrate during the nine months I spent pregnant with child number 2 of 3 with him accusing me of having had an affair. As if.....

Deep down, I do tend to move past these days. I do, state over and over, that this is not the case, that I can think for myself.

I get due to his personality, that he lives in a world of denial.

Just doesn't make things less frustrating, at times. Today, is one of those most frustrated days. ((had to send a child, who had been ill the night before to school, because I am under a probationary period, at work, with a new promotion..the sitter that would usually help wasn't able to going into the long weekend and planning to go out of town, and HE, as usual, just will not without aggravation, agree to take a day off from a job he's had for 11 years without either leaving me in limbo, giving me the largest hassle--leaving decisions to the very last minute, or just bringing up garbage like this about how brainwashed against him I'd become!))

I'm really venting, but if anyone has any words that will stick and get this circular accusation to end, I'd be grateful.