These are not "untouchable theories". They are facts that most people on the forums
are aware of. Newlifeyeah, she called for helpful advice; I think we all were trying to
give her that. In fact, I think the title of her thread was "Need some helpful insight..."

As a woman married for many years and having had a child, I am aware of the husband's
role in caring for an infant with his wife since it's to be "their" child, not just "her" child.
In a marriage, it is important that both partners are happy with a major decision like
planned parenthood, and that's what she's talking about, in my view.