I have meant to update but never got round to it.

So... success. Actually, two.

1) I logged out immediately after I came back to California after seeing this guy over Christmas. Just logged myself out cold turkey and never regretted it.

The nature of the relationship has since changed, since the guy will now move in with his wife (whom he used to see only 2-3 times a year as she lived separately and he was planning to divorce her for awhile) and participate in her horse business and supervise her construction workers etc. She is a good enough people manager, it seems, so the re-unification seems to be motivated by her desire to achieve better outcomes for her business and construction (building a large house, a farm, etc,); while I was drafting this post I remembered about her goats - she keeps goats - and emailed him asking whether he plans to learn to milk goats to help her out... He does plan to retire from being a p-doc and concentrate on helping her in her business and his own creativity in whatever free time he will have available after tending to the horses and, possibly, goats, as well as supervising construction. So I wished him lots of luck, and, he confirmed that she would not mind the regular Skype conversations he is used to having with me - meaning, he would still be allowed some free time and free choice when not engaged in productive pursuits for the sake of business expansion... So all is well there.

And... not even an iota of curiosity on my part. I did not miss having access to his email.

2) The local, more recent guy left his / his daughter's Amazon prime account open after we watched a movie on my computer, and, I logged out immediately without even being tempted to look at the history. Just right away.

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I am not even sure why I initially ran into this problem and did not log out from the email back last year.

Unclear why such unhealthy curiosity.

But whatever - as long as the problem has been fixed quite easily, I am not going to over-analyze it.

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Why did I title it "Seriously immoral"? Because it does not seem petty to me. The right to privacy is a serious right, so violating it is seriously immoral - period.

I do not believe in the right to control the actions and choices of others who are adults, so, by extension, I do not believe in the right to somebody's sperm (understood broadly to mean interference with somebody's choosing to do sperm-related things with someone other than me or solo), but I do believe in privacy rights, and so for me the thing was seriously immoral, and I am glad that I am over that hurdle...

Thanks for reading - it feels good to report a success, from time to time, and not that yet another guy is a complete a-hole.