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Originally Posted by monalisasmile
I ask because because today I really needed t to help me start but she didn't. I said I needed help because I didn't know how to start. She said to take my time and arrive. I said ok but you know t I will sit here and say nothing and she said that is ok too. Sometimes I get frustrated because I need her help. I mentioned this love hate thing I have with her after a while, which seemed like ages and she said I needed to accept her as a whole person which meant all of her, good and bad.
I couldn't bring up anything else for rest of time and she just sat with me.
Is your t good at helping you start?
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I thought you were going to bring what you posted about your family. Did you get scared?
Is that why you sat there? I know it's hard, but she's not going to be a mind reader and know what you need to talk about. That could have been the time to give her your post to read. I think it would be painful to sit while my T waited for me to say something. I mean for longer than about 2 minutes. I'm sorry that your session was like that.
Usually my T asks what I want to do, and waits for an answer. Sometimes she says, "How about doing some SE?"
I always have a zillion things to talk about so it's not a problem.