ya i have struggled with this. prior to being diagnosed with adhd, i was having serious social issues. i couldn't understand why i didn't fit in, which meant i tried all the harder. i felt like no one liked me when i was just myself (and they probably didn't- i was impulsive, i interrupted people, i was blunt, etc), so i tried to be someone i wasn't. that didn't work out well either. i tell ya, the correct diagnosis is key!