Im sorry to be spamming the forums. but I am just trying to sort out a very confusing situation.

my question now is what are boundaries? how do you know when one is crossed? the people at my residential treatment team said that my therapist back here was unethical and crossed professional boundaries. all she did was text me and email me and be there as much as she could. that doesn't sound like an issue. what if she was meeting a need that needed to be met at the time? is that still crossing a boundary? i dont understand why I have been cut off because of boundaries when there are no rules that say what the boundaries are. who decides what a boundary is and when one is crossed? and if she was ok with it, how could it be unethical?