Thank you biplol (name??) ,Patty and Linda !!!

I will definelty write when i feel i shoud share soemthing . I wanted to see what people think and how do they rectify the situation.Linda, she has never tried to harm me though once over the phone she said that if i had been close to her she wud have killed me.Later i confronted her with this when things calmed down and guess what happens ? she says " u have hurt me now , do u ever think i would harm the man i love so deeply". It was check mate for me again.My work has suffered due to this a lot , ppl called me a good engineer but offlate i have changed jobs 2 times now.She being a pshy herself is in denial as she thinks its all a reaction and not a problem.She doesnt think there is a problem , i offered to take marriage counselling many a times but she thinks i am the problem not her. So where does this start?? The moment her parents issue comes up !! They are old and so are mine. I would say one thing though, her parents constantly ask her for money cos they dont have anything but debts and does her brother and his family who are completely dependent on her. the way they ask causes concern to me cos it mostly done via blackmail. " you( my wife) is like a son to us, without u we wudnt have lived , we wud have starved, we feel ashamed but we have no where else to go. please ask your husband( me) to forgive " .does this happen once ?? no every month . i dont say a word and i have made it really clear to her and her family that I really dont mind anything. I guess she is stressed. She reminds me of our marriage vows always like looking after her etc.She asks me atleast 2 times a day ,either over the phone or when at home - If i love her?, if I would leave her? if I would cheat on her?.She makes it a point to barge into a conversation when i speak to any girl.My fault - I speak well and it comes across as if i flirt but I am not doing it.She knows very well that I have a very strong educational background and I could leave if i wish to.Infact just to be close to her I have taken up a job where she works. We see any movie and those trick questions keep coming. I just feel vexed. Dont get me wrong I am not doing a wife bashing here but I am speaking some things that I never have told anyone. Internet gives me an option of expressing myself clearly.I have been advised by my frnd( her collegaue a felow doctor) that i shud be firm when she acts mad, infact he has told me a few times very cleary to go for separation.he advised me to speak to her family regarding this but how do i trust them?? They wont say a word to her cos she is a goose that lays golden eggs for them.As you said Linda either i accept never to be happy or be pro-active !! I hope i do it someday without succumbing to the emotional blackmail of suicide.

Thanks all of you once again. I will keep you posted and wud try to discuss things with all you people who care !!