It does take two. It's unfortunate, when they play the blame game, and are unrealistic on their own end, about how and why things just didn't work out.

I do my best to limit time around him. To him, my asking, seemed to have given him some sort of power trip, over me. As if I was asking him a favor, instead of the reality, be a dad.

He had been starting this trend about running late for his visitations. And I told him, ((one of those pull the plug moments)), that he's lucky that I am not other women(or men), who if he was five minutes late, visitation is ruled out, completely for that day. ---he started being on-time again

I tend to not talk to him over the phone. Prefer everything in text. I can always shut my phone down or turn off my ringer. Which, I sometimes do. Phone calls were one of those things, he tortured me with, so to speak, in marriage.

As far as therapy. He went so far as to receive a prognosis. Stopped before the official diagnosis. I feel his 'friend' may have had something to do with that. Some dogs can be taught new tricks, others cannot...'

it is what it is. I just appreciate your supportive words and understanding