It's because of family that the poster is in this position. I only feel she as to cow-tow to family, because she is a minor. I'm 53, and until a few months ago, was still living with the anger and hurt of 38 years ago when my parents did the same as posters parents. I only hope that this forced split, and the new therapist helps Miswimmy heal. It's just that so many hospital teams and families have left patients worse off than they were before. I'm counting on miswimmy beating the odds.