I am guilty, at times, of trying to use my intellect to solve things that are emotional in nature, such as attachment issues. I wish that you could have or find whatever it is that you need, Miswimmy, and I do think that although you are under 18 that you still should have had a say or that you should have been able to go through some kind of process to help you understand. I think it is sad that you haven't gotten what you need in your FOO and have had no say in that, just as you have had no say in this decision. I have been through a painful termination, and I am concerned because I wish you, or anybody for that matter, didn't have to go through this. I hope you keep reaching out, we are here for you!