I had that problem EllieBear and found that the best way for me was to realize that that child I was made it into who I am now and now, I'm fine. That child survived and is okay now; it's like when you have an emergency and go into high gear and do everything right and then fall apart afterwards, when it's safe to (my T was helpful with that physical/emotional/mental information after I had a car accident on my way home from T and then started having trouble passing the site with my car later). Think of that little part of you as safe in you, her mother's arms? It was a horrible disaster but it's over and all you love is safe now.