You're quite right, I agree. Apologies for any offense. It's so very hard to change a lifetime of habits and their relationship and I can't take that away from you, or Baker. I thought at the time that the adage was not perfect to what I was trying to say, but it was the closest I could think of. I wanted Baker to see that she can take control of her feelings and it will stop hurting so much if she get's some help to accept this and try to change the negative thinking pattern.

I'll shut up now.