wink, how you choose to heal is up to you. I have not spoken to my abuser about this, I have not pressed charges, I have not seeked out my abuser though I did run into him, I have began T for tis very issue. After 18 years I told someone, My T first and my H secound. My parents don't know, my dr's don't know, past T's don't know. No one knows and I want to keep it that way. The T agrees it is my life, my story and I can write it how ever I choose. I have told her about 3 instances out of 50 + and she is good w/ that. It again is my story to tell. I have told my H about the 3 most mind terrorizing times. It is a story for me to know and to share only if I choose. I get to choose when, how, and with whoever I want , and it is ok if I never want to share anything else.

So what is your story? You can keep it share it, do nothing about it, or do everything about it. It all depends on you and what is right for you in your situation.