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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.
I have mixed feelings on this...I started masturbating and having "sexual thoughts" WAY before the "average age" group you presented. I had no idea what it was, just that it was wrong, disgusting, and abhorrent (the thoughts anyway) and I felt the same way when I found out what masturbation actually was. I feel the same way to this day—that it's wrong to be sexually attracted to someone else. But since I'm in my 20's, I have a sex drive so I DO think about other people/masturbate. So I don't know if my experiences as a young child is the cause of these thought processes or not.
But I was innocent until at least puberty (if not longer) as I had NO IDEA what these thoughts/feelings were or meant. My only opinion on them was that the thoughts were wrong so I avoided those thoughts until I couldn't control it any longer (puberty). I think the suppression of sexuality has crippled me in discovering/exploring my sexuality when it's apparently appropriate.
It's not that disagree with you...it's just that this makes me even more ashamed of my own sexuality and experiences. It wasn't like I knew what I was doing...I don't even know why I knew it was wrong.
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IMO, while I do think America has an unhealthy obsession with sexuality (assuming you're from America), sex shaming isn't the way to handle it. Instead of feeling ashamed that you did those things as a kid, just accept it and move on. My opinion is only that children ideally should not be encouraged to have sexual interest until puberty (puberty and upwards is debatable as hell and not the point of this thread), but I do not believe children should be shamed if they do end up having it. That doesn't really help anything, it's more Christian fundamentalist hatred than anything actually culturally healthy.