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Originally Posted by 5Stringer
2. ... there are so many possibilities. What if she loves both of us? What if she really loves me more but is downright TERRIFIED of breaking up with her first real boyfriend? For example, some girls who are kidnapped and sexually abused actually form very strong attachments to those who abuse them through fear.
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You need to tell her how you are feeling, to deal with the ambiguity created in (2). You do not know what is going on. She might love both of you but might feel fear stemming from that fact because she as most other people her age would have been conditioned to believe that you cannot love two people while in reality you can. And, there are countless other explanations. So, you need to let her know. Of the heartache, of the angst, of the feelings growing more and more intense and tender every time you see her, of her being unique and unmatched in your world - reread the OP, you wrote well and I am mostly quoting your own language, so you can clearly use the OP as your basis for drafting a love confession letter.
Tell her!
That would accomplish two goals:
- you will let her know without any doubt about what is going on so she then might or might not decide to act on your confession, possibly even breaking up with her current boyfriend,
- MORE IMPORTANTLY - you will get your self-expression. Self-expression is very important and has value per se, regardless of the outcome.
So... you have a long weekend so you are off work, and get to work on the love confession letter to her.
Good luck!