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Originally Posted by throwaway10
IMO, while I do think America has an unhealthy obsession with sexuality (assuming you're from America), sex shaming isn't the way to handle it. Instead of feeling ashamed that you did those things as a kid, just accept it and move on. My opinion is only that children ideally should not be encouraged to have sexual interest until puberty (puberty and upwards is debatable as hell and not the point of this thread), but I do not believe children should be shamed if they do end up having it. That doesn't really help anything, it's more Christian fundamentalist hatred than anything actually culturally healthy.
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I agree. It shouldn't be encouraged, and neither should it be shamed. Although, I remember going to church as a child, my family and I weren't overly religious. I did grow up in a sort of Christian fundamentalist hatred sort of culture in America, so maybe that's partially to blame?
The problem is that it's been drilled into my head so much...and the shame about sexuality came back in adulthood (in my adolescence I think I had a relatively healthy outlook on it). I'm just not sure if it's related to my childhood or if it's just something that's developed as I became an adult.
It would be interesting to see if anyone else on here has had similar experiences and whether they ended up how I have or not.
Also, even though I feel guilty because of "fantasies", I will absolutely terrified if sexuality becomes "real". For example, when I tried living with roommates, one of them had sex in another room. This greatly disturbed me, as until that moment, sex had always been imaginary and wasn't something that actually existed in real life. I'm not sure anyone can understand that line of thinking...I mean I knew it was "real", but it wasn't real to me.